by Monica Yates, host of the Feminine As F*ck Podcast
Tell me if this sounds familiar…
You’re going about your day and as you’re taking care of one task, you’re thinking about three others. You’re reminding yourself constantly of all the things you haven’t yet crossed off your list, which feels like it’s never-ending. You’re juggling so much, whether it’s a career, motherhood, partnership, family, intimacy, household, health, planning, organizing… For most of us, it’s (nearly) all of the above. It’s easy to become quickly overwhelmed.
This spiral of infinite roles we as women play is dizzying. On the one hand, we’re so great at it because we can multitask like no one’s business. However, on the other hand, it’s exhausting and can make us feel like we can never catch a break.
Answer this question honestly: Have you thought to yourself, “I can’t handle this much longer.” And if so, how often? Friend, if you’ve thought this to yourself even once, that’s one time too many.
We females are hardwired to want to conquer the world, yet we’re not biologically built to do it without the right support. It’s just not possible to run a business, manage a team of people, and balance our personal life all at the same time. We may feel that we have to, but realistically, trying to keep all of those balls in the air at once will cause burnout. In the long term, it’s just not sustainable.
So where does that leave us in today’s modern society? We have to get resourceful and figure out systems and balances that work for us. I’m talking about individualized support from you for you. Most of us don’t have a village of support that has our back, and so we have to be that for ourselves. We have to make ourselves our #1 priority because no one else is going to.
You are the village.
Let’s take a step back, though. While that may sound empowering AF — and if you felt empowered by it, listen closely. That part of you that felt empowered by that statement is the very part of you that has been hardwired to think that you have to do more to be more successful. I’m here to drill it into your mind that that is simply not true. Yeah, some people work better with a lot on their plate and thrive under pressure. If that’s you, then great. Giving yourself the space to figure out what you need is where you’re going to find your power.
Your value isn’t based on how much you accomplish, or how hard you work, or how exhausted you are. If you’re killing yourself to get projects in, work an “acceptable” amount of hours, and manage a team and their projects, then you’ll inevitably hit a wall. It’s time to learn how to relieve the pressure that you’ve inherently learned to put on yourself and understand how to execute differently to lead from the feminine — meaning you get to have it all with no burnout.
Let this serve as your nudge, that it’s possible for you and for every other woman reading this.
Listen to Monica’s podcast episode on burnout and women’s mental load here.
Monica Yates is a trauma healer, feminine/masculine embodiment coach, and period expert. She is also the host of the Feminine As F*ck Podcast (more than 1.6 million downloads) and runs a business helping people from all walks of life get into their magnetic feminine energy, feel safe letting men lead, heal their cycle and be free of the trauma and energetic blocks that hold them back from living their dream life.