Chloe Sunderland, known online as Roma Army, is a Romanian-born content creator who lives in Calgary, Alberta. She has built a large following by speaking openly about men’s issues. Chloe brings a direct, unfiltered voice to discussions around men’s mental health, dating, and social expectations. Her content challenges mainstream narratives and focuses on what she hears from men behind the scenes.
Chloe’s social media is a judgment-free zone where men feel heard and respected. She regularly shares real messages and experiences from her audience, which shape her perspective and keep her work focused on everyday reality rather than theory.
Q: You talk a lot about young men “checking out.” What does that actually look like?
Chloe Sunderland: There isn’t always drama. A lot of times it’s quiet. Guys stop trying in school, don’t apply for good jobs, avoid dating, and are alone most of the time. On the outside, it can look like they’re being lazy or unmotivated. When you actually talk to these men, a lot of them feel like nothing they do is going to matter anyway. So they pull back.
Q: What do young men say in private that they don’t express publicly?
Chloe Sunderland: A big one is that they feel disposable. That word comes up more than people might think. They feel like they’re only cared about if they’re useful, and if they’re not succeeding, then they’re basically a ghost. Many of them also say they’re tired of being told they’re the problem, especially when they’re already struggling.
Q: Dating is a common topic in your content. How is that linked to this feeling of disengagement?
Chloe Sunderland: Dating is where a lot of this hits the hardest because it’s so personal. Guys tell me they feel like they’re constantly being nitpicked. After enough rejection or bad experiences, they stop putting in effort. Then people turn around and say, “Why aren’t men social anymore?” without asking what made them that way in the first place.
Q: Some argue that this reflects a resistance to evolving gender roles. How do you respond to that?
Chloe Sunderland: I think it’s oversimplified. A lot of guys I hear from aren’t against change. They’re confused about what’s expected of them now. The rules feel different, but no one really explains what the new ones are. So, instead of getting it wrong and being criticized, they choose to stay away completely.
Q: What do you think actually helps men start re-engaging with life again?
Chloe Sunderland: They want to feel like they matter as a person and not just as a provider. That can come from small things. Having a purpose, even a simple one. Having a group of people who respect them. Also, hearing that they’re not alone helps a lot. Once that change happens, you start to see guys slowly take more chances again.
